Dating my Ex-boyfriend

Me and hubby finally got the chance to travel 2 weeks ago. It's been hanging on top of our Dream List for a long time now, it's originally 2 out of towns and 1 out of the country trips. (we wish! well, no harm on dreaming right)

After 3 years of marriage, finally we had it realized... A trip to Singapore.



Marina Bay Sands, our temporary home for our short stay

It was a fun 5 days and 4 nights of  "just us time". It felt like the days when we were still getting to know each other, talking about anything and everything under the sun. Holding hands, hugging, PDA just like boyfriend/girlfriends... It was nice dating my ex-boyfriend again 24/7 for 5 days straight. It was nostalgic in a nice kind of way. :)

We visited and experienced Singapore together, went to Universal Studios and acted like children again. It was a nice way to bond with each other, and in a way it refreshes and rekindle our love. As I said in my previous posts, we always find ways to keep the fire burning and this trip definitely did it.

The only down side of the trip was, leaving our Little girl behind... we missed her a whole lot. Soon when she's bigger and older to appreciate and remember, we will bring her along and that's for sure.

PhoebeCarla

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Sweet Saturday 19: Keys to a Happy Marriage: Fidelity and Trials

I didn't get to join last week's meme because we got infected with Sore Eyes, it's horrible and very infectious. First was yaya, Ater Ramie, then Little S, and then poor me, last week I infected Hubby and my Dad, and now it's my Mom and my nephew Kuya Icee. It's viral. I just hope it will go away ASAP.

Anyways, back to the Meme, I'm going to do two this week, Fidelity and Trials :)

" fidelity means faithfulness to a person, cause, or belief, demonstrated by continuing loyalty and support."

Luckily, we are blessed with that. From the very start we committed to be "one-woman-man". But we both know, temptation is just around waiting for the right timing to hit us especially when we are off gaurd. But Hubby and I believe that prayers, and more prayers and blessings from God will keep us strong.

To prevent me or him from playing James Bond (spying on each other), we agreed to be honest with each other, meaning I take what he said and not think otherwise because really from the start till now Maury hasn't given me any reason to doubt him. He is the most honest person I've ever known. Really. Sometimes irritatingly honest. Too honest. But I'm more than thankful to have a him. I'm so blessed.

We go on dates. Sometimes just the two of us, sometimes with friends. It keeps us sane from all the daily routine of making a living, raising Sophia, and all the challenges marriage brings, that sometimes becomes reasons of disagreement. So, we take a break from all that and enjoy each other's company. We are going to have one this week, a 4 day break. Me and Him with couple of friends. That's our way of keeping the fire burning. :)

Trials

Right now our biggest challenge is "Monetary". Although Hubby's job gives him good pay and I ran 3 dental clinics, our expenses are just way more than what we are making. The problem is way back when I was hooked with credit card debts. When I was immature, and very irresponsible with money. And I'm talking way back when I was still single and unattached. That's like 4-5 years ago. (just imagine how impulsive I was before). And I regret it soooooooo much because now I have to pay for it and drag hubby too. Luckily, I don't get blames and complains from him but I have my own guilts. Our House is ready for us to transfer but we decided not to jump right in because our Monthly budget will go negative. How sad is that?

Gratefully through that experience I become more wise, I read books about money and managing it.

To avoid fights and disagreements every time we have trials, we made a rule: We talk about the problem, our feelings about it for an hour or two, we don't stay there for too long. After airing everything out we then find ways to solve it, we make concrete plans. After that we agreed to do the solving without talking or lingering back about the problem. In that way, we avoid hurting and blaming each other. And we can always move forward. :)

PhoebeCarla

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Sweet Saturday #17 Keys to a Happy Marriage: Communication

Maury and I have been married for 3 years, and I'm proud to say that we never had a major argument. Surely we fight over what channel to watch or what restaurant to dine in and other petty things like that but that's just about it. I have to say the art of talking and listening played a very big role in our relationship. 

One quick story:

Early in our marriage, Maury and I had a conversation before going to bed that turned out into a heated argument. I forgot what its all about but I'm sure it was something insignificant. I ended up not talking to him.

Maury was asking me whats wrong, I just shook my head and said "nothing", with all the shoving his hands off me gesture completed with my very cold look. Of course like most girls, when I say "nothing" it really means there's "something" going on.

After his so many attempts of asking me, he finally gave up. I got more furious when he did.

More over, when I heard him snore himself to sleep.Yep he was snoring and having a good time with Alice in the wonderland while I can't sleep, and was even crying out of irritation.

In the morning, Maury hugged and kissed me "good morning" acting as if nothing happened. Grrrrrrrrr... right?

Did I win the argument? NOPE. I think I was even at lost. And I look horrible the following morning with my puffy dark eyes. And not to mention the migraine that lasted the whole day. 

Lesson learned?

• Be frank and straight forward.Say what you really want or feel and not the other way around. Because guys, takes girls literally and hates it when they have to guess what you really mean with what you're saying.

Through time and experience we've learned to find ways to express ourselves amidst our differences. All couples are not the same and what works for us might not work for others. Thankfully, we have no hard time expressing ourselves to each other. This is the way we do it:

• We find time to hear each other's stories. And honestly, I love listening to my husband, he amuses me, especially because we are very opposite to each other, meaning he's experiences and some views in life is something new to me.
• Accept each other's differences. I am the chatty person while he is the calm serious type. When he is mad, he wants to think first and talk about it when he is in a more sane mood. While I'm the "strike while the iron is hot" kind of person. So, when others say, don't sleep mad with each other doesn't work for us. We wait till we are ready to talk about the situation and amazingly it only takes us less than 30 minutes to compromise. The right timing is very important.
• When one of us is at fault, we are humble enough to ask forgiveness and the other one is humble enough to forgive. Because let's face it, if we stay angry the whole day or week, tomorrow he will still be there living in the same house with you.
• And if we criticize each other, we do it with extra cuteness and sweetness. "Can I kiss my stinky husband?" and he gets the hint to hit the shower, O diba? lol
• Talking is not the only way we communicate. Sometimes, we let physical communication do the talking. While, I love hearing him say "i love you" it feels so much sweeter when he gives me kisses and hug out of nowhere.

Early on, we decided to have a happy marriage. And until now, we are still on that same page and taking the same road. Because we are a team. And that I think is the most important thing in marriage.

My first time to join Sweet Saturday, hope you guys have a wonderful day with hubby and kids :)

PhoebeCarla

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